Pain Or Pain? Choose One

A research carried out by Jane McGonical, a game developer who wanted to know what the 5 highest regrets of the elderly were, had the line below as number 5 on the list.

“I wish I had lived a life true to my dreams; instead of what others expected of me”

Apparently, everyone would, at some point realize what their dreams are/were and it’ll be time to choose either of two pains. Life would present you with the PAIN A and PAIN B but while you can swallow the first pain immediately, you can’t swallow the other pain until much later in life.

PAIN A is the pain of grinding, planting, enduring, hoping, hustling; just name it. The pain of sacrificing the regular “go to school – get a job – settle down”, kind of life for the “Go to school but if school is a distraction; drop out” kind of life. The pain of having no one believe in that dream that only you can see, when you close your eyes.

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It’s painful when you’re putting in all the effort and nothing seems to be coming out of it. It’s painful when at the end of the month, you can’t even afford to cover your utilities. Just as it’s painful when the jeweler sits comfortably at the furnace, refining the gold. It’s painful but he sits there because he knows what it’ll look like by the time he’s done.

It’s a pain almost everyone tries to avoid.

PAIN B is that one life doesn’t allow you swallow till much later in life. It’s the REAL PAIN. It has actually killed more people than you can imagine. It’s the pain expressed by those old guys from that research. The agony of looking back and seeing that you didn’t live a life true to your dreams.

The pain of realizing you sat behind a desk for 40 hours every week, living from the paycheck to paycheck, fantasizing about becoming a chef, a photographer or an artist but you never gathered enough courage to ever live that life. When you look back and your terribly shaky hands can barely hold your walking stick still, talk less of a camera.


Keep being productive.

Long Life Is Overrated

At some point in your life, most especially if you make it past 40, you’ll probably start getting more health conscious. You may have a few health blogs bookmarked in your browsers and probably one or two health/nutrition instructions you’ll obey like you’ll drop dead the moment you derail from them.

While that’s good, don’t get overly attached…

…Long life is overrated and I’ll prove it.

Stay with me.

Methuselah holds the record for the longest living human ever. Dude was alive for almost a century – that’s longer than anybody else, past, present and probably future. Wait! Asides him being the guy that lived for 969 years, what other accomplishments do you know Methuselah for?

His Dad – Enoch, holds the record as the first man ever, and only one of two humans to not taste death, as history has it, he was taken off the earth in a whirlwind when his time on earth was up. His grandson – Noah, helped restore the human race. Screw living for a million years. I’d rather choose a more significant thing to be remembered for.

While a lot of people are doing all they can, to hold on to dear life; only a few people are truly living the “real” definition of life. One of the definitions you’ll find in the dictionary is – “A worthwhile existence”. So, my prayer, however weird it may sound is – “May I live a life that’s worthwhile. A life full of significance and one with immeasurable impact. If longevity comes as a bonus, fine. If not; cool.”

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” – Mae West

Don’t focus too much on the longevity of your existence and ignore the real purpose of living. That’s why a lot of people are just existing from day-to-day and not actually living. At the end of the day, it’s not the years in your life that matters; it’s the life your years.

Make it count!

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intent of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally proclaiming: Wow! What a Ride”
– Hunter S. Thompson